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相爱容易 相处难

简单点说,就是相爱是一种感觉,精神上满足就可以了,有时候说说情话,拥抱或者一点小小的意外就可以满足。但是相处涉及到两个人的性格和价值观。性格好的或者互补的那么相处可能就比较好一点,但是性格上都比较强硬的话,任何一件事都会起战争;但是两个人性格都很内敛的话,会打冷战。而对于价值观,就更大范围了。一件消失小事,两个人观点不一样,价值取向不一样都会起矛盾。所以在相处过程中,一定至少有一个人能够谦让、宽容;另一个人也应该能够多体谅和谅解。

两人该做的事, 我一人承担了。谦让 (Humility), 宽容 (Tolerance), 体谅 (Considerate) 和谅解 (Understanding)。 正所谓, 

谦让是一种美德, 宽容是一种胸怀。 人与人之间的和谐共处贵在谦让。 谦让是一种深厚的涵养, 是一种善待生活, 善待他人的境界, 能陶治人的情操, 带来心灵的恬淡与宁静。 它不但可以改善自己和社会的关系还可以使自己的心灵得到慰籍与升华。 

谦让是一种豁达的爱, 犹如一泓泉水浇灭哀怨嫉妒之火, 可以化冲突为祥和。 它又是一种高尚的品德, 别人冲撞了你, 内心会感到不安。 你以谦让对待别人, 自然会得到别人的理解与拥戴。 

而宽容是一种艺术, 宽容别人不是懦弱, 更不是无奈。 宽容是人与人之间必不可缺的润滑剂, 它是衡量一个人的气质, 涵养, 道德水准的一种尺度。 我曾经遇见过这样的一个人, 他的名叫俊杰, 他跟我说了, 他极爱音乐, 会弹钢琴, 梦想成为一名钢琴家。 当时, 喜欢我的那位男生, 以为我对钢琴情有独钟, 产生了嫉妒心, 所以叫我不支持俊杰。 可他不明白, 人好不好, 讨不讨我喜欢, 就看内涵啊! 会音乐之人, 多少含蓄得多, 修身修养, 品性不太坏,所以才会吸引很多女生青睐。

 宽容别人是对对方的一种尊重, 一种接受, 一种爱心。 有时候, 宽容是一种无形的力量, 宽容了别人等于宽容了自己, 它是生命的洞见, 更是人生的一种境界。 

法国大师曾经说过:“世界上最宽阔的是海洋, 比海洋宽阔的是天空,比天空宽阔的是人的心灵。” 人与人之间的相处需要宽容与谦让。 

谦让是金, 宽容是海。懂得宽容可以使我的胸怀更宽广, 学会谦让能让我的生活更加精彩 🙂

体谅,就是设身处地为他人着想,也就是要善解人意。谅解,就是了解实情后原谅或消除意见。

谁能谅解人,谁就能拯救人。——尤•邦达列夫

以恶报恶是不对的,最好饶恕别人。——陀思妥耶夫斯基

非常同意! 得饶人处 且饶人, 我会尽力做到最好!我不会因为他人对我发脾气, 我就要 以小人之心, 度君子之腹。 

爱挑剔的人总是得不到满足,永远也不会幸福。——拉封丹

不挑剔了, 得到报应了。 不挑别人对我好。 我对他人好就得了。 

君子不责人所不及,不强人所不能,不苦人所不好。——《文中子》

不要逼我。 。我只是想好好生活。 动不动就发脾气, 然后一声不吭的, 不原谅, 心中满是妒恨。 太可怕了。 

一个人若不违逆另一个正在气头上的人,他既救了自己,也救了别人。——《摩诃婆罗多》

所以生气的人, 我都离得 远远的。

 

 

 

 

 

 

我的心真的受伤了

My dream guy finally appeared.. ..
In my dreams. Never once any of my romance themed dreams were this touchy and cosy. Must be the weather I m sleeping in, or the time I fell asleep.

I couldnt see his face, I dont know him at all, but I do know that he is not somebody Im close with, or romantically linked right now in my real life.  I was sitting at a desk, with nothing much to do, the setting was more like a school rather than an office.

All I ever did in my dreams was to ho back and forth between my desk and the basin in the toilet, to wash my bottle. This unknown but sweet guy was stading near my desk. Somehow, he managed to steal a kiss from me by the side.

It s the most real thing I ve ever felt, by the time I wake up, I felt violated -.-

His hug was so warm and cuddly, I didnt want to push him away despite knowing its wrong. ..it s wrong to betray the boyfriend in own’s dreamland. Without any warning, I realise I actually leaned in for a kiss!! And the kiss didnt break away though I wasn’t even kissing, standing as still as a rod. It s the passion he had that was oberwhelming to me. Surprisingly, I love it. Kissing a strangle in my dreams?

Is that an angel sent into my dreams to make me believe in love again? Or just a hint to tell me. ..another one is on his way to find me? Either one, I dont feel too happy about it. Am currently stuck in the sadness abyss, might not even recover within 10 days. Maybe, the pillow I slept on last night was too soft. ..

I didnt meant to complain much, but if a person loves me deeply and enough, he/she would never really flare up unnecessary. Even my parents dont do that unless they re drunk. Throughout my whole life, I ve never seen anyone with a bad temper at all.

In my world, my social circle, people were either super loving and friendly, annoying or frustrated, bitchy or fake, just not angry. I hardly see angry people around me.  But once I’m in a relationship, I see it nearly everyday or two.

I dont like to get used to it. When my brother gets angry with me, he would tell me off in the most calm manner, close to giving ‘theres no next time’ warning. As for my sisters, they would only screaming a ‘walao-e’, cry, seeth with anger in one moment,  the next, anger dissipates and we re playing again. Their anger usually last 5 minutes the longest. Mommy wise, she ll curse and swear into the air and cry out loud the next. Pap is very talkative when he gets angry, he channeled them out by shouting at us, out of concern for our well-being (e.g. coming home after midnight), then go to sleep or nap. Qad is one hella good girlfriend, only gets angry when I provoke her (that was once in 5 years). She never seem to get angry with me very often, and if she does, she ll forgive me very soon after. Laode got angry any times because I can be overbearing at times. To him, I must be a childish and ridiculous fellow, eat too much and bear some resemblance to a glutton with a high pitch and broken wire in my head. Yet, when he’s angry, he either tell his friend or vent it out using food/eating habits.

The rest? When my poly clique gets angry, the pastor-like boy will put  his serene profile up, nobody would know he s angry. The football fan and his girlfriend will display astrong front, however as loving with each other to their surrounding people, I really cant count how many times they were angered. The most bad tempered girl and guy were the last two. But still, they re very naise people. Looking beyond their angry surface (both of them were angry with me more than once), they re great people to hang with once a month. He (out of these two), will tell the world world that he hates me if I make him unhappy, however has the best listening ear I ve ever met. as for her (the last girl in my clique), she got angered by my blog post before as I write about her temperament without much thoughts. So both of them avoided me until they re happy again. Both didnt really confront me. Both are happy in their own world as well.

My uni clique?
We re all girls. When we re angry, we dont mention it among ourselves. Either venting it on a blog or by telling some outsiders. We didnt meet up much. We re more sad than angry if we do fight. We re peace-loving. We hate to fight. My friends and I, non-fighty, hardly arguing unless during debates.

My life used to be so peaceful and lovely. ..

I am. .

My Mommy’s dearest girl. ..

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My pap’s strongest girl. ..standing with him no matter what!!

My brother’s most independent sister. ..whom he depended on alot.

My sisters’ proudest sister. ..with liva’s kiss on my head and a bear hug. Liva is cute, and fabulous, giving me hugs on her birthday!! Gina asked me why are my eyes red, well, I got sore eyes. *winks*
Thanks for telling me she loves me on her bird day!!

YC just sent a My Qad’s most closest Qad! :’)  I love her so much!! She is 200% understanding, 500% benevolent, 700% lovely and 1000% great girlfriend: D


Together for 5 years and never failing! Hurray!! 🙂

I am my favourites’ favourite. What more do I ask? 😀

Jiayous Xin! Have no fears!! Eat some home cooked chicken drumstick! Though Im superb full~~


This is the real me. Never die, live for my loved ones. Can never never fall short on them. 🙂

*deeply touched*

Birthday Everyday!

August Babies: QAD, Livana & both QAD and MY brothers.

September Baby: Precious

October: MINE xD

 

 

 

“Birthday”

I heard you’re feeling nothing’s going right
Why don’t you let me stop by?
The clock is ticking, running out of time
So we should party all night

So cover your eyes,
I have a surprise
I hope you got a healthy appetite
If you wanna dance,
If you want it all
You know that I’m the girl that you should call

Boy, when you’re with me
I’ll give you a taste
Make it like your birthday everyday
I know you like it sweet
So you can have your cake
Give you something good to celebrate

So make a wish
I’ll make it like your birthday everyday
I’ll be your gift
Give you something good to celebrate

Pop your confetti
Pop your Pérignon
So hot and heavy
‘Til dawn
I got you spinning
Like a disco ball
All night they’re playing
Your song

We’re living the life
We’re doing it right
You’re never gonna be unsatisfied
If you wanna dance
If you want it all
You know that I’m the girl that you should call

Boy, when you’re with me
I’ll give you a taste
Make it like your birthday everyday
I know you like it sweet
So you can have your cake
Give you something good to celebrate

So make a wish
I’ll make it like your birthday everyday
I’ll be your gift
Give you something good to celebrate

Happy birthday

So let me get you in your birthday suit
It’s time to bring out the big balloons
So let me get you in your birthday suit
It’s time to bring out the big, big, big, big, big, big balloons

Boy, when you’re with me
I’ll give you a taste
Make it like your birthday everyday
I know you like it sweet
So you can have your cake
Give you something good to celebrate

Boy, when you’re with me
I’ll give you a taste
Make it like your birthday everyday
I know you like it sweet
So you can have your cake
Give you something good to celebrate

So make a wish
I’ll make it like your birthday everyday
I’ll be your gift
Give you something good to celebrate

Happy birthday

What is the best of both worlds?

It means that the moment Qad knows my boyfriend joining us for meal, she decided to skip the meeting. The moment my boyfriend knows she is not coming, he decides to abandon me. I have sucha good life! *winks*

The best of none world haha!! Guess it s the thing if my girlfriend and my boyfriend shares similar personality in terms of human relations. …